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Archive for the ‘Big Questions With Devora’ Category

Rosh Hashana 5771 / 2010 Reflections and Renewal

Written on August 24, 2010 from the desk of Rabbi David Komerofsky

The start of a school year and Rosh Hashana have always been linked in my mind. I have always felt so lucky that being Jewish gave me the opportunity to make New Years resolutions twice a year. I have tried to make Rosh Hashana resolutions focus on my religious and spiritual goals and New Years more of my physical, but over time I realize that they all go together and just taking time to assess life, consider my big questions and take stock of my dreams is a pretty worthy goal without trying to separate the issues. Read more »

Giving

Written on June 10, 2010 from the desk of Rabbi David Komerofsky

“My friend asked me to sponsor her in a 10K run for cancer she was doing. I felt so frustrated that I have so little money to live on these days that I couldn’t donate to this worthy cause.” – Isa, class of 2013 Read more »

Jewish Earth Day

Written on April 15, 2010 from the desk of Rabbi David Komerofsky

Dear Devora,

My roommate is very wasteful and refuses to take the extra step to recycle or even turn the water off when brushing her teeth. Any suggestions?

Dani, class of 2012 Read more »

What Masks Do You Hide Behind? Who Do You Want to be?

Written on February 18, 2010 from the desk of Development

What Masks Do You Hide Behind? Who Do You Want to be?

Dear Devora,

I feel like I am living a double life. Some of my friends see me as the ultimate party-er and others only see my studious side. Do you think it is mis-leading to behave only one way with some friends and another way with others?

- Jill, Plan 2, 2011

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Too much to do…

Written on February 11, 2010 from the desk of Development
Dear Devora,
I have so much stuff on my to-do list I don’t know where to begin. Any suggestions?
- Aaron, Marketing Major, 2010
The Talmud tells us that a person who is commanded to do something and does it is greater than a person who isn’t commanded to do something and does it. So whether your task is mandatory or just feels that way try one of these suggestions by professional coach, Deborah Greyson Riegel.
Ten Ways to Motivate Yourself to Do What You Don’t Really Want to Do
1. Do the hardest, toughest, least desirable thing first – because then it’s done!
2. Verbalize why you’re doing what you’re doing. Ask yourself, “What do I ultimately want? Why is
this important to me?”
3. If doing the task or project isn’t important to you but it’s important to someone else (your professor, your friend, your parent, your community), then ask yourself, “How
does helping ______________ also serve me?”
4. Visualize the outcome and the impact of the task. Picture what it will look like and feel like
when it’s done, and the difference it will have made – even if it’s just a small improvement in
your stress level.
5. Cut a deal with yourself. (Mine usually involves dark chocolate.)
6. Get an accountability partner, and prompt them to ask you these three questions: “What are
you going to do? By when? And how will I know?”
7. Interview someone who actually loves doing what you have to do. See what excites them about the task, and keep an open mind. You don’t have to learn to love it, but you could learn to
dread it less.
8. Sever your ties to the past. As long as you are committed to despising a task because you have always despised this task, guess what? You’re going to keep suffering by choice.
9. To get started, remind yourself that “Ready is Overrated”. To get finished, remind yourself that
“Perfection is Impractical.”
10. Participate in a virtual retreat with a friend, colleague or coach. Everyone picks a task to do at
the top of the hour. Connect by phone to discuss where you are on your project and where you
need to be. Everyone should identify a goal to achieve in the next hour. Hang up and do it. An
hour later, reconvene by phone, check in, troubleshoot, and create a new goal. Repeat as
needed. Everyone wins!
Dear Devora,
I have so much stuff on my to-do list I don’t know where to begin. Any suggestions?
- Aaron, Marketing Major, 2010 Read more »

Lost in the Crowd?

Written on January 17, 2010 from the desk of Rabbi David Komerofsky

Dear Devora,

Sometimes I feel kind of lost in the crowd at UT – like no one would notice whether I am there or not. Any suggestions? – Amy, class of 2013 Read more »

Big Questions With Devora

Written on November 30, 2009 from the desk of Devora Brustin

“I dread waking up in the morning. I am so unmotivated to get out of bed. Any suggestions to make this process less painful??”  - Allie

This is the perfect question to be asking right around Thanksgiving and believe me, I feel your pain. As it gets cooler and darker, the pull of the warm blankets can be very enticing. Well, wouldn’t you know, once again the Jews have a great antidote for getting our heads in the game each and every day.

WE ARE TOLD: DO NOT EVEN ATTEMPT TO GET OUT OF BED BEFORE SAYING THESE WORDS

Modeh Ani or Modeh (Hebrew: מודה אני‎; “I give thanks,” the first words of the prayer) is a Jewish prayer that observant Jews recite daily upon waking, while still in bed.

Transliteration: Modeh ani lifanecha melech chai v’kayam shehechezarta bi nishmahti b’chemlah, rabah emunatecha.

English translation: I offer thanks before you, living and eternal King, for You have mercifully restored my soul within me; Your faithfulness is great. Read more »

How do I Make My Visit at Home for the Upcoming Breaks Stress Free?

Written on November 10, 2009 from the desk of Devora Brustin

Going home to visit for a holiday or break can be a really wonderful experience. However, it can also be very stressful for everyone involved. For you, the college student, there have been emotional, intellectual and possibly physical and spiritual transitions and transformations. Being away from home you have gotten used to your freedom and independence. Going home can be such a welcome relief… Hugging your parents, throwing your laundry in the machine, lounging on the couch, eating a home cooked meal, and sleeping in your own bed… But then, what about the next day when you are asked to set the table, told to be home by 1 a.m., and quizzed about your grades? Can this power struggle be avoided or at least dealt with in a way that your independence is honored and your parents are respected?

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